All of us have thought patterns that are fighting to control our lives. We accumulate these thought patterns through our life experiences. Positive thought patterns can propel us to success, while negative ones can prevent us from achieving our potential. While some of these thought patterns are based on fiction, your brain can confuse them for reality.
Your brain is like a bus that takes you through your journey of life. Driving the bus is your true self. Comprised of your values, beliefs, ethics, and passions. Typically your true self is at the wheel of the bus. Driving along, making decisions that positively impact our life.
The unwanted passengers
Your thoughts are passengers on the bus. Sometimes they call out to your true self with vital information. But then we have a group of thoughts called the “Unwanted Passengers”. These passengers provide you with poor information that causes you to not reach your destination. Even worse, these passengers can convince you to let them control your life.
The following is a small list of Unwanted Passengers:
The Ego – “I’m the best at my job. Who does he think he is to provide me with feedback?”
The Anxiety – “I don’t know what’s going to happen. This is making me feel so insecure.”
The Victim – “Everyone’s out to get me. I can’t possibly win because I always screw up.”
The Anger – “I have the right to be angry because they hurt me.”
The Shame – “Why would anyone ever want to like me? I’m a bad person.”
The Know It All – “ I wish this person would stop talking so I could explain to them how the world
The Negative Nelly – “I can’t do this. I’m not smart enough.”
The Excuse Maker – “It’s the other guy’s fault.”
The Fixed Mindset – “I can’t learn this new skill.”
Unfortunately when these passengers take the wheel we lose our ability to see what’s truly going on in our lives and we create self destructive stories that limit our growth potential. In order for us to reach our destination, these passengers need to return to their seats or better yet get off the bus.
Taking control of our thoughts
A way to check these passengers is to create a thought journal (You can find it here). The journal allows you to track your thoughts. By tracking your thoughts you can create a feedback loop with reality to determine if your thoughts were correct.
If certain thought patterns are off from reality you’ll know the unwanted passengers had control of you. The next time you’re in one of these situations you’ll be able to recognize the unwanted passengers. When they do appear, take notice of them, and recognize how they are making you feel.
Awareness is the first step towards improvement
By being aware of the unwanted passengers it allows you to create space between you thoughts and actions. With practice this space will grow. This space allows you to decide if you want to act on the unwanted passengers advice. With practice you’ll be able to ignore the unwanted passengers so you can achieve your goals.
Try this experiment for twos week and let me know what happens in the comment section.
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